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I can help with....

I can provide help if you are experiencing the following types of difficulty:

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  • Difficulties in relation to yourself: low self-esteem and confidence, feeling uncertain of who you are, what you like or want to do in life; not knowing your own mind at times, including being 'ambushed' by unexpected feelings and reactions to things; feeling numb and disconnected or generally stuck.

  • Feeling stuck in repeating patterns in relationships: feeling insecure and not good enough for your partner, or feeling they are not enough for you; fearing infidelity or others leaving you; frequent arguments and 'stormy' relationships; struggling to get close to others or sustain relationships; loneliness.

  • Struggling to manage feelings so that you sometimes become completely overwhelmed, tense, frozen or drained. You might have had to resort to coping strategies that bring their own problems such as substance or alcohol use, self-harm, gambling, eating, sex.

  • Difficulty coming to terms with change, such as a relationship ending, change of job or loss of another role, having children, children leaving home, moving or leaving home yourself, bereavement, illness or injury.

  • Depression, which can take many forms including low mood, feelings of hopelessness or guilt, difficulty concentrating, low energy, changes or problems with sleep and appetite, low self-esteem and a loss of enjoyment of activities.

  • Excessive anxiety or worry which affects your ability to engage in activities and life. It might leave you feeling exhausted, tense, restless, unable to sleep or uncharacteristically irritable. And there might be something quite specific that you are worried about, or nothing that you can identify.

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I understand that for many of us asking for help and taking the step to start therapy is difficult. You will already be struggling with the issues that are leading you to seek help, and then on top of this the act of asking for help will produce a mixture of feelings and expectations. You may feel hopeful or relieved at having made the decision to get help, and have all sorts of thoughts about what this help will be like. You might experience anxiety about how you will be perceived by the therapist: will they judge you in some way, or think that your problems are not actually very significant? You might feel you have 'failed' in some way.

 

Asking for help when in distress and vulnerable stirs up all kinds of feelings about needing and relying on others. These can relate back to early childhood when we were completely dependent on others, and our experience of seeking help will be shaped by these early relationships in ways which may not be clear to us. I will take this into account so that we can explore and think about this early in therapy as the thoughts and feelings which emerge when asking for help can often offer a helpful early window into understanding broader struggles and problems.

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About me

My original passion since childhood has been art and drawing, and the close, mindful attention to and absorption in what we perceive and how we perceive it. Drawing requires a rigorous yet calm and reflective engagement with what is in front of us and how we perceive and relate to it.

 

I studied philosophy and psychology at Oxford University. I found philosophy most engaging, particularly when it grappled with trying to describe subjective experience, what it is like to be human (the 'continental' philosophers particularly; Husserl, Heidegger, Sartre, Merleau-Ponty) and how we might best live. Psychology, it seemed to me at the time, was more concerned with external behaviour and measurement and so at risk of objectifying people. I also loved how philosophy required close, curious attention to experience and the attempt to suspend judgment and prejudice. This fascinated me, reminded me of what I valued in drawing, and influenced me towards Counselling Psychology.

 

Counselling Psychology training was gratifyingly grounded in the philosophical approach ('phenomenology', to give it it's proper name) I had been attracted to at university. Training immersed me in clinical experience in a range of settings (GP surgeries, voluntary sector counselling services, bereavement and a hospital psychotherapy service) and, importantly, my own therapy and experiential groups. Alongside this training I worked in the Henderson Hospital Democratic Therapeutic Community; an internationally recognised centre of excellence providing residential psychotherapy. What I learned there from the residents and staff I have carried throughout my career. They taught me to always look to an individual's strengths, to empower and to take time to be with people in a human relationship, rather than adopting an 'expert' position from which advice and wisdom can be dispensed. They showed me the power of providing a safe relational environment within which individuals, who have struggled elsewhere, can flourish.

 

These values have underpinned my development through my subsequent career, including recently researching how to promote the involvement of people with experience of mental health struggles in the provision and development of mental health services (research paper). I love working in the NHS for the opportunities, challenges and variety of experience it has given me and for the chance to learn from skilled and experienced colleagues. I am, however, wary of the overarching medical/diagnostic model which sometimes dominates, as this can place too much power in the hands of professionals and position patients as passive and 'ill' or even 'damaged'. Therapy must, in my view, take a different approach. It must not reduce people to their problems, but attend to them as a whole person. It should start from the assumption that the difficulties that bring people to therapy were originally solutions to a problem: ways of coping with distress, of getting needs met from others who would not, or could not respond. They have been ways to survive psychologically.

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I have been described by colleagues as calm, reflective, thoughtful and thought-through, measured, empathetic and as having a thorough knowledge and experience of therapy and therpeutic approaches. 

 

I bring these values, developed and ingrained through my training and experience, to my practice - close, curious, non-judgmental attention to really understand your perspective. The provision of a human-human relationship which has the aim of providing enough safety to speak openly and explore your experience. I want to empower you and encourage your active engagement in developing understanding and trying out new strategies and ways of being. As a supervisor of mine put it: 'I don't have the map of this terrain, you have that. I am, however, good at reading maps.'

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